Sexgry

Couples get along better when they have regular, frequent, loving, fun, sex and sexual activity.   The opposite is true as well.

Sexgry is the growing emotional, physical, physiological, and relational frustration and anger and malaise that an individual or both individuals in a committed monogamous relationship get and which starts to permeate and negatively affect the committed relationship when the two people engage in little or no sexual activity and intimacy over a prolonged period of time (which is subjective to each person in each committed relationship).

Trademark on “Sexgry” pending.

Sex and sexual activity  and touch are “human” needs for both individuals in a committed monogamous relationship – it connective, it is bonding, it is emotional, it is physical, it is an expression of love, it is an expression of attraction towards the other, it is an expression of desire for the other, it is an expression of affection, it it is exciting (or, most of the time, should be), it is an expression of willingness, it is an expression of being giving and good and game, it is an expression of generosity, it is an expression of how open you are to the other person.

Regular, frequent Touch and Sex, and having Orgasms (especially women) has dozens of benefits for each individual in the committed monogamous relationship and for the relationship itself:  increased marital satisfaction, more passion/desire, more passion/desire for each, having more sex = wanting to have more sex = having more sex, helps incontinence (bladder control/ leakage), migraine relief (maybe prevention)natural pain killer, helps make skin glow, keeps skin young and healthy, clearer skin (less acne and fewer blemishes), helps keep skin moisturized/ hydrated (through better circulation), eliminates/ prevent wrinkles, healthier hair, strengthens nails, helps cure common cold*, increased energy, better sleep, anti-aging, improves flexibility, improves mood, increases longevity, boosts confidence, increases intimacy, boosts immune system, weight loss, improved cardiovascular health, increased happiness, relieves pain, stress relief, depression & anxiety relief, whiter & healthier teeth (semen/bjs), lowers blood pressureincreased self-esteem, lower body toning, improved posture, increases estrogen and testosterone [women need both], better circulation, cuts risk of cancer, less neuroticismHealth Benefits For women:   cuts risk of breast cancer,   helps with out-of-control periods, increases estrogen and testosterone [women need both], helps keep the vagina healthy and young; Health Benefits For men: cuts risk of prostate cancer, and  More sex means even less ED riskMen who have sex at least three times a week are only one-fourth as likely to get erectile dysfunction as are men who have less-than-weekly sex  [sex/sexual activity/ stimulation/ erections, not necessarily full cumming orgasms] which means he and his cock or dick are good-to-go for you pleasure.  Both the vagina and penis are muscles, muscles need exercise, and if you don’t use them, you lose them.

When a couple does not engage in regular, frequent Touch and Sex and Orgasms and touch and sex and orgasms becomes sporadic, infrequent, almost non-existent then there are dozens of negative consequences, the opposites of the benefits, that will affect each individual and the relationship:  less passion/desire, less passion/desire for each other, decreased marital satisfaction, increased bladder leakage, worse skin (dry, wrinkles, sallow/ lack of color, poor complexion – acne/blemishes)worse hair (brittle, dry, split ends, falls out more easily)weaker nails, lower immune system – more susceptible to colds etc, decreased energy, worse sleepdecreased flexibility, worse mood,  shortened life, decreased confidence, decreased intimacy, no weight loss help, no cardiovascular health help, decreased happiness, increased stress, increased susceptibility to depression & anxiety, no blood pressure helpdecreased self-esteem, less lower body toning, no posture improvement, no (good) hormonal increases or balancing, less sex, decreased marital satisfaction: Consequences Just for Women: irregular and/or or out-of-control periods;  Consequences for Men: increased erectile dysfunction. 

 

  “Call it a catch-69, the cruel irony that a proven cure for stress — a hot sex life — is exactly what stress destroys. Connecting with a partner (and I mean physically) is a balm for the body.      “Being in an intimate relationship correlates to healing faster, getting sick less often and living longer,” says James Coan, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of Virginia in Charlottesville. “Good relationships offset tension in daily life.” Anxiety spikes blood pressure, which hobbles the immune system. “But when you have sex, you release feel-good hormones, including oxytocin and endorphins,” Coan adds. Eventually, you begin to associate your partner with those positive feelings, and he becomes someone you trust to be your soother during tough times….    “If the sex is satisfying, it’s one part of a larger relationship,” say Dr. Laura Berman. “But if your sex life isn’t working, the entire relationship is vulnerable to distancing, infidelity and a breakup. Sex eases anger. When we connect physically, we cut our partners slack. But when there’s no sexual connection, you get angrier quicker. Feeling angry, you’re less likely to want sex. Before long, you’re not having it at all and the relationship frays. Over time, it will crumble.”…    Indeed, simply holding hands can allay stress, Coan’s research shows….    Kissing and hugging, too, alleviate daily anxiety. Berman’s research found that unaffectionate couples report more stress and depression than their cuddling counterparts, and pairs who smooch a lot are eight times less likely to be tense or depressed. The best way to stay connected and stress-free, scientists believe, is to keep the touching going, especially during rocky times….

    Sex may treat all the various symptoms of stress [and anger – http://tinyurl.com/hke82r5  –, anger causes many of the same health issues as stress] but love is the ultimate cure.     
“….intimacy is what helps love to survive through the toughest of times, and makes us continue to want to love and be loved by our partners….”

 

Lack of sex and affection and intimacy – all forms including sexual – makes it harder for love to survive through the toughest time and makes us not to love and be loved by our partners – i.e. sexgry.

Don’t let your sexgriness poison your relationship.

 

Ripple Effect 2

“How you see yourself sexually reflects how you think, feel, and behave in almost every other aspect of your life.  How you see yourself in life determines how you see yourself in bed, and vice versa.
 
            Sex is rest of your life miniature….When you’re that exposed, every aspect of who you think you are stands out in stark relief.  Whether you like yourself, accept your flaws, forgive yourself easily, feel strong, or can find contentment in the moment will all determine how you experience what happens in the bedroom [ wherever/whenever].”  from The Ripple Effect

Marriage, at its most basic foundation, is a sexual contract.

Mark Gungor’s introduction that he wrote in this wonderful book The Bead Method:

Marriage, at its most basic foundation, is a sexual contract. Think about it. When a couple stands at the altar and says, “I do,” what they are essentially saying is “I’LL DO you, you’ll DO me, and we won’t DO anybody else!” While marriage has many other wonderful, challenging and fascinating aspects, it is first and foremost a sexual agreement.

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” – Genesis 2:24

Oh I know, I know, there is more to marriage than just sex… just as a house is much more than its concrete foundation. Indeed, the house may have many beautiful rooms that contain countless valuable treasures of far more interest and allure than the foundation. But remove the foundation and that house will come crashing down – no matter how beautiful the rooms or valuable the contents inside.

Yes there is more to marriage than sex. There is love: but you don’t need a marriage license to love someone. There is commitment; but you don’t need a marriage license to be committed to someone. There are financial considerations; but you can totally support someone financially for the rest of their life without the need of a marriage license. There is also friendship: but you can be the best friend in the world to someone without marrying him or her. There are even spiritual considerations and perspectives like serving God together; but you don’t need a marriage license to do that either. Only when it comes to sex does God require the covenant of marriage.

quote found on http://loveseatmarriage.com/1-firm-foundation/

 

 

You Might Be, Possibly, Are Teasing And Denying Your Husband, not in a good way, And Don’t Even Know It.