Wife’s Personality Controls The Couple’s Sex Life and a Happier Sex Life Makes For a Marriage and A Happy Marriage Makes For a Happy Couple and A Happy Couple Makes For a Happy Home and A Happy Home Makes for Happier Children Therefore A Wife’s Personality Controls Whether The Couple’s Children Are Happy or Not.
See/read yesterday’s post about how the wife’s personality controls the couple’s sex life and either makes it happy and fulfilling or angry/ miserable and draining.
Happy Sex and Fulfilling Sex Life = Happy Marriage = Happy Couple = Less Stressed More Loving Parents = Happier Children = Happier Sex and Fulfilling Sex Life = Happier Marriage = Less Stress More Loving Parents = Happier Children on and on and on.
The opposite is true as well. Miserable and draining and-or limited sex life = Miserable Unsatisfying Marriage = = Anxious Stressed Parents = Anxious Stressed Children = A More Miserable And Draining and Limited Sex Life = Even Less Satisfying Marriage = More Anxious Stressed Unhappy Parents = More Anxious Stressed Children and on and on.
“…What does a happy romantic relationship have to do with raising happy kids, after all?
We know intuitively that how happy we are — in a relationship or otherwise — affects our children. Our emotions are contagious, and so when a romantic partner loves us unconditionally, the happiness and security that love brings can spill over, to our children’s benefit. Romance also has the potential to make us better parents: positive emotions (like love) and the social support of a partner can make us warmer and more responsive to our children.
Here are the top three most important “parenting competencies,” as reported by Epstein in Scientific American Mind, in terms of their influence on kids’ health, happiness, and school success, as well as the quality of the parent’s relationship with their children:
1. Love and affection. You support and accept the child, are physically affectionate, and spend quality one-on-one time together.
2. Stress management. You take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child, practice relaxation techniques and promote positive interpretations of events.
3. Relationship skills. You maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse, significant other and/or co-parent and model effective relationship skills with other people.
Here is what I think is amazing about that list: two of those three most important practices aren’t even parenting skills per se, in that they don’t directly affect our children.
Or do they?
We all know that when we are stressed out, our stress spills over and often makes our children anxious. So stress management skills turn out to be really important for our relationship with our children, and also our children’s happiness and school success!
So too with our relationship with our children’s other parent, whether or not we are romantically involved, as well as our relationship with a romantic partner (if it isn’t the other parent). It’s true: little is more important than maintaining and improving the relationships we have with our partners and co-parents. Like most parents, I try to model positive relationship skills for my for my children; all this great new science related to what happy couples do is helpful in knowing how to grow the love in my life….”