Again, you, as a woman, get to decided, by law, whether or not you engage in sex or sexual activity. At any time, even in the middle of a sexual act, you can stop and say no more and that’s that.
But just saying yes to sex or sexual activity isn’t enough for your husband. Because you aren’t a piece of meat to him.
Your husband wants, needs to know that you are into having sex [wide definition] with him – not just as a general idea, but each time that you and he “get together” for sex or sexual activity.
“Women, please invite us clearly and unmistakably to make love with you. Only when we are certain that your invitation is wholehearted and clear can we melt into devotional service to your pleasure. We need to be total, unbridled by doubt, to allow the strength of our male physicality to take you. We want to explode you into light and usher you to the door where you can dissolve into pure sex with the Big Spirit – in the field that is beyond us both, but until we are certain that Your invitation is total, we can’t surrender to giving you our gifts fully. Your vulnerability is my vulnerability. Let’s melt deeper into it together and heal the past traumas with our love-making.” Jamie Catto http://www.jamicatto.wordpress.com/1013/01/11/the-vulnerability-of-penetration found via ladycheeky on tumblr