To your husband, denial is something like this:
You are your husband’s favorite meal, snack, appetizer, and dessert. He loves kissing you, licking you, and eating your pussy and [maybe] winky, pussy in particular, as often (prefer daily) as you allow (prefer command), morning before work or at night or as an afternoon delight, and in as many ways/positions as possible.
Yes, he loves making love to, having sex with, fucking, being fucked by you (traditional or strap-on) , and-or cuddling/spooning you (preferably both of you naked) – He is hooked on and addicted to YOU which includes your body/pussy and he doesn’t ever want to get clean, he just wants to score you all the time.
I don’t like the word “denied” or “denial”- him being allowed to and-or commanded to eat your pussy is not denial, it’s pleasure.
Kissing you, touching you, and giving you pleasure is not denial – it’s pleasure.
Being touched, kissed, aroused by, groped by you, handled by you, licked or sucked, used by you is not denial – it’s pleasure.
Not getting to cum every or every other (etc) sensual-sexual-erotic encounter or interlude is not denial, it’s build-up until he does (when delaying, tell me that maybe you’ll let me or make me or command me to cum in, say, two days, if i am, for example, a good boy), it’s erotic, it’s sensual, it can/should be playful, and heightens his sensitivity to your exquisite touch.
T&D is not actually denial. Him being touched or fondled or kissed or licked or sucked or used for your pleasure by you is not denial.
Denial is not getting to be intimate-sensual-sexual-erotic-playful – wide definition – with you.
Denial is not getting to give you erotic-sensual-sexual-intimate-playful pleasure.
Denial is not getting erotic-sensual-sexual-intimate-playful-teasing pleasure – wide definition – from you.
Denial is not being touched (wide definition) or kissed by you.
Denial is not getting to kiss you or touch (wide definition) you.
Denial is not having playtime with you.