You don’t want to be just “a piece of meat” or a piece of ass to your husband.
You don’t want to be pestered for sex or be groped.
You, hopefully, don’t like rejecting or refusing your husband’s “advances” or overtures for sex.
If you don’t like rejecting or refusing your husband’s “advances” or overtures for sex then you probably feel guilty when you do.
Your husband needs sex or, better put, sexual activity with you everyday. “”Sexual activity”, to quote Mistress Ivey Green, “does not mean sexual intercourse. Well, not strictly. Anything you do of a sexual or sensual or pampering nature can be considered sexual activity.”
He feels rejected when you reject his sexual advances. He feels emotionally disconnected from you when he does not have or get “sexual activity” with you.
You probably want him to read your mind and mood and figure when you want sex (ie sexual intercourse) and when you don’t and then you get upset when he doesn’t initiate when you want him to and when he does initiate but you don’t want him.
You reject his advances so he gets hurt and distant and then you feel rejected so you continue to reject his advances and so on and so on and so on. A vicious circle.
T&D, Edging, Ruined Orgasms, Karezza, Pampering and Sensual Pleasures, RDA of Orgasms, You Eroticizing Your Marriage, FDR/ Femdom, and Maybe some Kink are the answers.
Only a few things you have to do: Make it fun and interesting for both you. Accept, embrace, and have fun with your role as the “dominant” or leader or director or queen or princess or mistress. Tease and Edge him at least daily if not a few times a day and-or have him please/pleasure you daily if not more often.
You direct and control the sexual and sensual activity. You initiate or request or direct or command or somehow make clear what you want. You touch and tease him. You keep him hungering for you and wanting to please and pleasure and be with you. He gets to please and pleasure and be with you. You get pleasure and get pleased. You get to cum as much as you want. He cums at your discretion. He feels connected to and wanted by you.
He doesn’t feel rejected. You don’t feel like a piece of meat.