Giving – How, What and Consistency

What you give to your husband, how you give it, and giving it consistently matter.

What you give must matter to your husband.

You must give with love, kindness, selflessness, and show that you want to give it.

If you give something that matters to your husband and you give with kindness, love, selflessness and you show that you want to give it, but only give it every once a while, especially only after your husband is upset with you, then that completely negates and contradicts the gift.  It is a token effort.  It is placation.  It actually shows that you only care when he is upset.  It is reactive, not proactive.

Read the 5 Love Languages by John Gottman to figure out your husband’s love languages and-or have him take a 5 Love Languages quiz and you, as a couple, can talk about the results as well as your own love languages so that you both get what you need and want.

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