9. This one is going to piss some people off, but freedom of speech begs the inclusion of CherryBlossomStorm‘s solution.
I just have sex with him, even if I’m not horny. Just grab the lube and we’re good to go. [for fuck’s sake] it’s not that complicated if he’s horny I should let him have me… I like the warmth and the closeness and hearing his moans and knowing I’m making him feel good, basically no matter WHAT kind of mood I’m in.
One, again, you control sex, you control the when, the where, and how and even why of sex between you and your husband.
You don’t have to do this, you don’t have to let your husband “have” you, but if you do then maybe you get into it, maybe you get physical pleasure, orgasms, feel good in addition to having made your husband feel wanted, accepted, and good.
You don’t have to let your husband “have” you, but if you don’t then what do you get? what are the short-term results and long-term effects? Not good.
Better yet, take control and integrate sex, sexuality, sensuality, and eroticism into you and your husband’s “everyday” life so it’s infused with excitement and playfulness, enthused, and directed toward your fulfilment. If you do that then you will never have to “let him have you” unless you want him to have and take you.
He wants your attention. He wants to feel wanted. By getting to please and pleasure you, you are actually pleasing him and making him feel good and wanted.
Not in the mood? tired? Exhausted? Just start doing something sensual or sexual or erotic to or with your husband and you might just get in the mood.
Not in the mood? tired? Exhausted? Just have him doing something sensual or sexual or erotic to you and you might just get in the mood.
Not in the mood? Tired? Exhausted? There a lot of things you can do or you can have him do to and for you that will fulfill him, make him feel good, make yourself feel, and enhance your relationship and connection from T&D, hj, edging, ruined orgasms, eat you (on the sexual side) to having him give you a full-body massage (sensual) which you can, if you want, then make erotic (make him give it to you while he’s nude or in a thong, tease him by allowing him to massage your ass cheeks and making him ask/beg to massage elsewhere).