Your husband wants to be wanted by you.
Your husband wants to sexually-sensually (and otherwise) please you.
Your husband wants your time and attention – especially sexual attention.
Your husband wants variety and excitement with you. In an upcoming post I will list some ways of providing variety.
Your husband does not like feeling that you feel like sex (wide variety) is a chore and something to be done as little as possible and as quickly as possible like Miranda and Steve in the first Sex and the City movie.
T&D and Edging/ Ruining, if you are committed to it, will make your husband feel wanted by you, will make him feel good because he gets to please you because you are telling him or showing him how to please you and training him to please you, will provide variety and excitement, and will make him feel you want to touch or be touched by or have sex (wide variety) with him.