(adapted from an e-mail I sent to my beloved Princess)
You are the only person your husband wants and needs that sacred connection with and when that connection is made, when you are playful and touchy, when you reach to him enthusiastically flirtaciously sassily and-or you accept his entreaties and offers whole-heartedly and enthusiastically and he gets the chance to make you feel good, to feel and touch and pleasure you, be touched and pleasured (and teased/made to xxxx/edged/denied/made-or-allowed to cum etc etc etc) by you – he feels good. He feels wanted. He feels loved. He feels like a priority. If it was a bad day for you as a couple or him then that day, for him, washes away in your “embrace.” Being with you, connecting with you that way makes a good day great.
You are the only person your husband wants and needs that sacred connection with and when that connection isn’t made, when you are distant and upset, he feels it – He feels rejected, alone, hurt, bitter. If it was bad day for you as a couple or for him, not being with you, not connecting with you that way, makes the day worse and makes the day linger. If it was a good day, not being with you, not connecting with you that way, ends the day on a bad note.